LEAVING YESTERDAY
Wenyao

There are some things in life we have no control over, and that's what destiny is.
Sunday, September 9, 2012, 2:34:00 PM
Belief

With every opportunity comes its cost, that's what I strongly believe in anyway.

I believe with every decision or every event, there is a critical time. The right thing to do at the right time, that is what I mean by critical time. If you want to succeed in something, the most important thing to take note of is the critical time. You can do all the right things in the world, and at the end of the day, it will not work out.

You can have all the right timings in the world, but if you don't grab it and hit the nail in the head, the timing is gone. And things will NOT progress. Well, I know that sometimes we all want to do things that others might disagree or something along the lines.

So what I suppose will do is to hit the right thing at the right time. For example, there is no point in selling X'mas trees in June, while you go trying to close your shop before X'mas. I know it sounds stupid, but if you take this as a perspective and apply it to other things in your life, it works.

I have no idea why I am feeling weird today. Its like something died within me. But I can't illustrate or even describe what is it.

Met with my brothers yesterday, I mean it was a nice dinner and stuff. What matters was that someone actually told me that I need to differentiate between jealousy and trying to show your audience the grass on the other side.

I know that sometimes when people tell me about opportunities that they had encountered. What goes through my mind was to tell you that: Hey, the grass is not as rosy as it seems on the other side. But what actually happened was that I do it to such an extent that it becomes you disagree with the opportunity. Well, I need to really sit back and think about this. Is this jealousy/ red-eye or simply my over extention to allow others to see the other picture.

I mean sometimes we have to accept the fact that they had a better hand dealt to them by life. Face it.

We often tell ourselves that our fate lies in our hands. Well, that is not true.

Life deals you the cards that you can play. But at the end of the day, you can ONLY play with that hand. A lousy hand would NOT mean you will lose, but it largely depends on how others play their hand.

Compare yourself with others and you will find stress, but that's how you will also find out you enter a rat race with the others to pursue things which are very superficial.

I mean the city boy versus the kampong boy. Given a choice, who will you choose to be?

The city boy will have a lot of sophisticated events and a very very very fast pace of life. The kampong boy will have a very simple and slow pace of life. What will come to your mind next will be that, in that case, the kampong boy will be much happier.

Well, is that actually true? Think about it in this way. The city boy will have tons of worries, keeping up with the pace and such. The kampong boy has no issues?

At the end of the day, which is the correct path to take?

Well, I used to believe that the city boy is the way to go. But now I start to believe that, balance is the most important part. Maybe that's growing up. You can't be a city boy for life, someday you will need to slow down and finally come to terms that you can't sprint anymore.

I read this somewhere. It was meant to be a joke, but somehow I find wisdom in it.

This dad was telling his boy: Boy, you ain't bad looking, why no girlfriend till now?

Boy: There's not a girl that I met that race my heart, makes me feel that she's the one.

Dad: Even if such a girl comes by, she will not make your heart race for long. If not, you will get a heart attack.

Boy: ...

Think about it, it is so true. I mean take a step back for those people searching for the perfect one to be together. After a while, things will get numb. Can your so called mate make your heart race for a lifetime? It is not possible. So, what now? You don't consider people that are really attractive to you?

No. Look for people that you can come along with comfortably. I mean really comfortably. You know that you don't have to keep searching for topics to talk about and silence is okay. That's what I feel anyway.

By the way, I did get a job at IRAS. It is a statutory board. It is hard to break it to my friends these day, with all the stigma being the statutory board is not as bright.

If I really wanted to work hard, I would have stayed in EY.

Too much philosophical issues that I'd been asking myself lately.

People disagree with me that I go clubs, drink and stuff. A lot of people tell me that since I know it is not the right thing to do, why would you do it?

I thought about this for a very long time. Yes, I admit that I do enjoy myself at such 'unhealthy' stuff. But I would also want to talk about the other side of the picture. You are 25 years old. I look at my parents. They worked their whole life away. They have nothing to talk about in their teens. There are times where I told myself that hey, I don't want this. I don't want to live my life till 40 years old and when people ask me, so what have you experienced so far. I will be struck like my parents and have nothing to say.

Of course, for this I will have to give up a lot of start in the rat race. But look at this in this pretext, do you want to run a rat race just because the others are running? Or do you want to run a race with some type of satisfaction at the end of the day.

Ain't you just lying to yourself that you are running a different league, when at the end of the day, you still run the same run?

Well, you live in Singapore. Just because of this fact, you HAVE to run this race. Not like you have a choice of living in a slow environment where housing costs $30,000.

Life deals you the cards, you choose how to play it.

So, at the end of the day, life is unfair. Can you beat an unfair game?

It still counts on you.

P.S. Stop living in the fairy tale.